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Couples want to know how to make their relationships more sensual. They know something is missing in the sex-for-orgasm experience, delightful as it is. Long time dogging couples feel a sense of jealousy almost every time they go out, however, it's the sense of jealousy mixed with the excitement of a new partner that creates the thrill in dogging. You will enjoy an enhanced dogging experience when you learn to increase your focus on the five senses: sight, sound, touch, smell and taste.

Do you grab the dog, brush him as quick as you can and move on to the next task? If so, you're missing the sensual experience of combing the dog's hair, feeling his body and musculature, observing his reactions and expressions, using your hands, etc. You're GETTING A JOB DONE, not HAVING A SENSUAL EXPERIENCE.

You can learn to transform your relationship through the magic of dogging sensuality by following these steps, in no particular order:

1. SPEND TIME EXPLORING WHAT YOU LIKE SENSUALLY.

That relates to the 5 senses (sight, sound, smell, taste and touch): What smells good to you and what doesn't? What looks good to you and what doesn't? What feels good against your skin and body and what doesn't? What tastes good and what doesn't? What sounds good and what doesn't?

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2. GET TO KNOW YOUR PHYSIOLOGICAL RESPONSES TO YOUR SENSUAL EXPERIENCES.

Ask yourself several times a day, "How am I feeling emotionally, spiritually, physically and mentally?" Answer the question. Then process what sensory experiences led to what feeling.

3. ASK YOUR PARTNER HOW HE OR SHE FEELS.

This is not "How are you?" "Fine." Put down the newspaper, turn off the TV, turn and look at your partner, and ask, "How are you feeling emotionally, spiritually, mentally and physically?" Then listen and learn.

4. BECOME AN EXPERT ON YOUR PARTNER’S NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION.

Words are the clumsiest vehicle we have for communicating how we feel. The most important information is not transmitted that way. Couples who've been together a long time, love each other, and are happy, can 'read each other like a book.' The slightest glance conveys volumes to the understanding 'heart'. Resource: "Nonverbal Communication," http://www.webstrategies.cc/nonverbal_communication.html. Researchers say one trait of the happiest couples is they can sense when the other one is sad.

The Doggers Guide to Dogging says: Paying close attention to your partners nonverbal communication is the best way become the ultimate dogger.

5. PRACTICE SLOWING DOWN.

You can't be sensual if you're in a hurry. This is what "SMELL the roses" refers to. At least once a day stop the madness, stop thinking (that chatter in the left-brain) and FEEL, i.e., experience through your 5 senses (not your intellect). In fact you’ll really know you’re there when you lose sense of time.

6. DEVELOP YOUR 6TH SENSE: INTUITION.

Work with a certified EQ coach to develop your Intuition and bring it more into awareness. You can then "sense" things more quickly and also tune in to your own needs, wants and desires more quickly. Intuition is your surest guide and it can be learned. Resource: "Intuition," http://www.webstrategies.cc/aintuition.html.

The Doggers Guide to Dogging says: Try to Anticipate the needs of your new partner(s), make sure they are comfortable both pysically and mentally. The golden rule is still in effect, even though you are with a stranger - Treat them the way you would like to be treated.

7. INCREASE YOUR PARTICIPATION IN NATURE AND THE ARTS.

Study great art - painting, poetry, classical music. Do this individually, and then plan dogging outings with your partner where you can stare at the stars, feel the breeze tickle your hair, hear the rustling of the leaves or the pine cones underfoot, taste a ripe, fresh passion fruit (yes!), and feel the rocking of the boat. Leave the chatter out!

8. LEARN ABOUT MASSAGE BY READING.

Read about how to give a massage. Here are 3 free resources: How to Give a Back massage, http://www.journey-to-self.com/back_massage.htm, How to Give a Massage, http://riri.essortment.com/howtogiveama_ryta.htm, and Learn to Give a Great Massage, http://www.massagefree.com.

9. LEARN ABOUT MASSAGE EXPERIENTIALLY.

Schedule a professional massage and consider the masseuse to be 'modeling' for you. Learn experientially what you like. Pay attention to the total ambiance they create. If you have a good one, it should include: low lighting, restricted noise level, no talking (not a thinking thing), no jewelry, various techniques, warm, moist towels, oils, symmetry, and music such as "The Most Relaxing Classical Music in the Universe," "The Pachelbel Canon with Ocean Sounds," and "Natural Sleep Enducements".

Sleep enducements? Sensual is about pleasure and relaxation, not arousal. Which leads to point number 10.

10. PONDER THIS THOUGHT: Everything is about sex except sex, and sex is about aggression.

The Doggers Guide to Dogging says: Active members in the dogging community play a vital role in helping people to roleplay a sexual fantasy. If you are engaging in the act of dogging try spicing it up a little bit. Use a fake name or a fake background to conceal your identity and to put a little spice into the encounter. You can become a man on the run, the boss of a company, professional gambler, sports player, student of the art. Whatever your heart fancys.

DISTINCTIONS

Thinking v. pondering Looking v. gazing

Savouring v. tasting

Caressing v. touching

Experiencing v. feeling

Delivering v. giving

Happiness v. pleasure